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I knew what my parents wanted to say. He was going to stay at a hotel for a few days to think.

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But the days stretched into a confusing blur of weeks. I missed the signs, little and big. He never let me park in the garage. He was always needed at work dinners, at business meetings that lasted until the wee hours and on frequent trips.

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When he was home, his eyes were trained on his BlackBerry. Can you put it down for a bit? We started seeing a marriage counsellor. I thought we were going through a slump, that it was normal. The contents of that envelope marked the end of my marriage. It is nearly impossible to describe the depth of pain you feel when you suffer a loss. In one instant, I had lost my best childhood friend, the boy who took me to prom, the person who could articulate my thoughts better than I could.

My dream of teaching our kids to ride a two-wheeler outside our home together had just vanished, along with our plans to take our kids on an African safari when they were teenagers.

I will never forget his pasty complexion when he was forced to admit his year-long affair Husband affair divorce a waitress. His face was so blanched it was as though he had doused it in flour. I had never felt so disappointed, diminished and humiliated. I hated myself for being so unlovable, so unwanted and so goddamn dumb. My feelings just died. He said that he and his girlfriend had split and that he wanted to give our marriage a second shot. I wanted to feel sorry for him, to put myself in his shoes, but I just felt dirty.

People are supposed to be born with a conscience. There is right and wrong; there is no in-between. I never would have had the nerve to lead a double life, to constantly lie to the person who loved me most. I hope Husband affair divorce kids grow up to Husband affair divorce nothing like you. The next morning, I tore all his expensive suits off the wooden hangers in Husband affair divorce closet and shoved them into crinkly black plastic garbage bags.

I ripped our wedding photos off the walls, took down family photos. Suddenly I hated the big one of us kissing while our kids smiled, perched on our backs. Had he been sleeping with her when that photo was taken? How old was Isabelle when the affair began? I was constantly trying to work out the math.

And then I wondered: What the f—k was I going to do with the 10 pads of personalized letterhead I had just ordered with all the members of our family cartooned Husband affair divorce the top? Everything went into the garage. I took my wedding rings off for good. They say there are five stages of grief: I felt everything at once. My body physically ached.

My chest heaved with sobs. Snot dripped into my mouth. As the weeks dragged on, Bruno Mars sang to me. Did they hold hands? Have their own special memories and songs? Had they ever thought of me, even once? In those first few weeks of single motherhood, my family rallied around me. My brother Jarrad was constantly at my house, fixing whatever my kids had accidentally pulled off the wall that day.

My sister came over and helped me put my kids to bed on days when I was too empty to do it myself.

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She raided my closet for frumpy clothes. I liked that store. My parents helped with the kids, reassured me that things would be okay and came with me to meet with lawyers. Well, f—k you too.

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I pulled up my big-girl panties. I started seeing a therapist, one who would not let me feel like a victim for long. She helped me realize very quickly that Husband affair divorce kids needed a happy mother.

That was not going to be our life. No matter what it took or how hard it would be, I was going to get back on top.

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