Login or Sign Up. Today's Posts Member List Calendar. In a different discussion thread from mbxdad, I asked him how he "Neuro linguistic programming techniques dating websites" to pull in so many inquiries from women on match dot com, and his response contained something that I as a midlife bachelor have never heard of before Now I don't know any more about any
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You can also use our friend, google, to do some research on NLP. And if you have specific questions, perhaps mbxdad will indulge - but don't ask him to give away all of his secrets I've been told my profile is unique, compelling, exhilarating, intimidating yeah, I know, makes me a bit ill but it is what it is. I'm sure there are just as many who found it cheesy.
I probably follow up on one sixth of the incoming volunteers, and have recruited about a half dozen times. I understand marketing pretty well so I approached it as a messaging exercise, combined with a bit of NLP. From the marketing angle I wanted it to be highly differentiated.
I wrote it in a style that nobody else used, and in a style that engaged the reader right off the bat, providing a way for me to introduce examples of who I am. Instead of saying I am a good father, I just described in one sentence a moment where I engaged fully with my son as a father, using active words that made the reader feel they are there.
Instead of saying I have self-discipline, I described what I do first thing in the morning to clear my mind again in one-two sentences and in an active voice that invited the reader to tell me what they did in the morning to clear their mind.
Second, I brought in an aspect of NLP around building rapport and understanding that different people use different ways of connecting some are visual, some are auditory, some are kinetic, etc.
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I made sure that each of my examples used one of these ways of connecting. So when I describe something I make sure to word it in a way that connected visually, or through sound, or through the sense of touch. I close with a nice description of what I'm looking for that hits the hot buttons.
I've been very happy with the quality of dates that it attracts -
Neuro linguistic programming techniques dating websites it can be a bit intimidating I think that self-confident women gravitate toward it hence the marathoners, professionals, etc. Customers who bought this item...
Many I would have reached out to myself. Still it doesn't hit all the time - there is the occasional one I'd like to recruit who seems to be a great match but just doesn't get juiced up by my profile. It also helps that I'm tall and good looking, well educated and well employed.
My online pic isn't great - that's something I could definitely improve. I lost a lot of weight over the past 2 years so most of my photos don't do justice. Need to find a chick friend to shoot some pics. There is no doubt a well written profile combined with decent pics will get more attention. My online profile is a funny profile. Many chicks who read my profile thought I was so hilarious.
This can work both for an against me as a few
Neuro linguistic programming techniques dating websites a date with a stand up comic and I am not always 'on.
One chick I dated, The Smart Party Girl, brought a copy of my profile to our first date and wanted to discuss it. Mbx is on the right path here by simply putting some thought into what goes into the online profile. I do think the NLP bit is taking this to the next level.
For example my inbox last night included this comment from a smart hottie: I'm sure you're getting some major hits! I don't normally send emails but this compelled me".
I get other similar - though more subdued - comments frequently. There's nothing false at all about what I wrote, it's just being conscious and selective about how that truth is presented.
Still, I have a similar concern you had, KJ, about living up to expectations once met in person. So far so good.
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I guess my second concern is that this sets up an initial pattern of the woman being the pursuer, a role reversal, but I think during the meetup I squelch any possibility of role reversal concerns. OK, no more secret sharing. I want them all to myself. Hey mbxdad - we don't know jack about NLP. How about sharing just a little bit more - maybe give us an EXAMPLE so that we can fully grasp the type of technique you are using so successfully?
What do you say? Did you learn about this from one of the PUAs? Do you have a book or e-book that you can point us to? Originally posted by gregory View Post. It makes sense to use marketing tactics, after all it is an "ad".
I haven't used NLP in an ad yet, but I have used variations of Neil Strauss's "I'm a jerk" profile which basically challenges the women as opposed to the normal walks on the beach and getting caught in the rain dribble most ads contain. Like mbxdad said, "Neuro linguistic programming techniques dating websites" out. I do think some people have given NLP a bad name, like Ross Jeffries old school pua guybut as long as
Neuro linguistic programming techniques dating websites don't go to that extreme and still sound like a normal but interesting person its ok.
Last edited by Captain No Marriage ; Originally posted by mbxdad View Post. I'm intrigued by this whole NLP concept. I did some casual internet reading - it seems to have some new-agey nuances that would normally turn me off, but it also appears that there is some science behind it.
I'm definitely going to check it out further. If I ever decide to try online dating, building a profile would be my
Neuro linguistic programming techniques dating websites challenge. Go mbxdad - hope you get a whole lotta love God no, I wouldn't read pick-up-artist stuff nor follow it. Seems so false and misleading. What I tried was just normal healthy human interaction stuff. A friend of mine introduced me to some of the original work by Bandler.
I'm no expert at all, and I only really pulled in one idea. The idea around building rapport around a person's preferred communication style is to understand which mode connects with their emotions.
Many people are visual. They may say things like "Looks like To connect with them you'd want to use visual imagery in your communications. Some people connect through movement.
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To connect with them you'd want to use expressive hand gestures, touch them on the elbow etc. I don't know the readers of my profile so I had to hit all bases somewhere in my profile.
For example if I wanted to share that I like to travel, instead of saying "I love to travel" who doesn't? I might say "Spring in Holland - feasting my eyes on acres of tulips of every color, sounds of windmills churning, wind in my hair - what could make you feel more alive?
I've never been to Holland, but you get the idea. Cheesy title, I know, but don't get hung up on that, it's not really about being someone you're not, but rather about connecting to people more effectively.
This sounds extremely intriguing to me. I've been way short of time recently due to my MFing job I think it
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