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Get out of the friend zone dating system

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First, I will say that I relate to the confusion. A few years ago I met a guy who I thought was perfect for me. He checked all the boxes and had everything I was looking for.

She was cool and nonchalant about it. I naively took his excuse as fact and was determined to show him that I was a cool girl and if he dated me, there would be zero weirdness.

I made a point of letting him know that I run a website with my ex-boyfriend talk about overcoming a weird situation!

I took every opportunity that presented "Get out of the friend zone dating system" to let him know that dating me carries zero weirdness. I also went on this pathetic quest to prove to him how great we would be together, pointing out our vast similarities, likes, values, and so forth. If a guy really likes a girlthe last thought that will cross his mind is fear of ruining the friendship. I have asked this question to countless men and the answer is always the same: All that means is he is somewhat attracted to you, but again, not enough to want to date you because if he did, he would.

It all goes back to what has essentially become my catchphrase at this point since I say it so often: You know it and everyone around you knows it.

Most men are terrified of rejection and would rather not try as opposed to try and risk being rejected. Getting around this one is easy Get out of the friend zone dating system though, just show a little bit of interest.

It comes down to this simple fact: Well then forget it.

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